The Connector Toolkit — marriagecounselinginstitute

Your Communication Style:
"The Connector"

Discover More About Your Style Below...

About "The Connector"

The single most important thing you can easily do stop relationship conflict and become more skilled with conflict, even if you haven’t been good at conflict before is to appreciate and understand your preferred communication style.

Based on your answers, as a "Connector", what's important is...

How you express your needs to him, and how you share what’s on your mind at any given moment
How to be up front about your emotions even when it's hard for him to hear, or hard for you to do
How to get him to appreciate that your motivation is always to include him in important decisions, even when he doubts you

Figuring out the dating puzzle, especially relating to a new person, being flexible, and establishing commitment (if you're single)
How to address the fact that you haven't been having sex recently, and you're wondering what this actually means
And much, much more...

Does That Seem To Fit? You're Not Alone.

Download Our Most Powerful Course, "The Ultimate Stop Fighting Toolkit"...
All About How "Connectors" Can Become Pro's At Relationship Conflict.

MODULE 1 - Conflict Foundations - Listening, And Getting Yourself Heard. (In this video, we demonstrate a foundational exercise to get a partner to understand and validate your position. We show you how to speak and listen in a way that brings you both closer.)
MODULE 2 - Getting Needs Met By Turning Toward Bids For Attention. (In this video, we show you how to pay attention to how your partner asks to get needs met, and how you bid for your partner's attention. We show you how to use several phone apps to start the process immediately.)
MODULE 3 - Becoming a Conflict Pro In Relationships. (In this video, we show you how to avoid criticism and defensiveness. We show you what contempt does to relationships, and why simply calming your body down changes your view of the relationship immediately.)
MODULE 4 - Learning From Prior Negative Incidents. (In this video, you discover an five-step process to make sure the last argument doesn't happen the same way again. We demonstrate it using a real issue.)
MODULE 5 - How Successful Couples Compromise Like Pros. (In this video, we show you an easy three-part process to finally achieve compromise, which is simple when you've done the other modules. We use a real issue to demonstrate.)

About Your Instructors
Alapaki Yee, MFT & Sam Garanzini, MFT LPCC

Sam (Salvatore) Garanzini and Alapaki Yee are Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapists, and the co-founders of the Gay Couples Institute, which now delivers couples therapy to over 200 couples per year across the United States.

Sam is also an adjunct professor in the Counseling Psychology Department at the University of San Francisco.

Alapaki Yee is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and has treated several hundred couples in over a decade of clinical practice.

Last year, Sam, Alapaki, and John and Julie Gottman published the first and only outcome study of the Gottman Method, which happened to show the success of the Method with gay and lesbian couples.

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